I am not quiet about the fact that I really didn't like the year 2013. Most of it was a headache. Drama-filled. Stressful. Is it really fair of me to blame 365 days on a number? Meh, probably not fair, rational or reasonable...but it's what I'm doing (and I'm not feeling the least bit guilty about it). Then again, is it more appropriate to blame the past 365 days on me? The stress, drama-induced grossness on the fact that I really never took the time to really dig deep and figure who I am, what I want and where I want to be.
The next 365 days I want to dedicate to just that. Digging deep. Holding myself accountable for life. Slowing down (a LOT). Making sure my time spent is well spent and spewing with high amounts of quality.
A person I know shared words of his friend. Words that are the epitome of digging deep. Words I am going to do my best to live by for the next 365 days:
"A resolution is a “firm determination”. It’s a firm decision to do
something or to refrain from doing something. It’s a determination of an
action. And why do we fail to keep these resolutions? Because the
desire for change isn’t a strong enough force to bring about lasting
change. Desire is only part of the puzzle. And actions disconnected from
belief and conviction are empty motions that may build your reputation
but do nothing for your character. Desire comes from the heart.
Conviction comes from the soul. Belief is harbored in the mind. And
actions are simply our bodies outward expression of what the rest of our
Self is saying. If you want to experience true change entertain my list
of 14 New Years resolutions for 2014. None are actions, but your
actions might be shaped if you’re willing to let them be. 1. Know that
you can Give even when it’s not the Holiday season. FYI: People are NOT
in greater need in December. There are 11 other months and endless
opportunities to Give throughout year. 2. Be humble. Stand at the foot
of a mountain, at the edge of the ocean, or in the middle of a forest
and ask yourself,”What did I do to contribute to this creation?” Hint:
The answer is “Nothing”. You’re not that big of a deal. 3. Believe that
your self-worth is not rooted in the number of “likes” you get. 4.
Believe that WHO you are is more important that what you own, where you
live, or what you drive. 5. Listen to your soul before you listen to
your heart. How can you tell the difference? You typically don’t really
want to do what your soul is whispering to you. And your heart often
screams louder than your better judgment. 6. Know that health isn’t
measured by numbers and isn’t achieved by pills. 7. Know that Hope
doesn’t cost a thing. But it’s the best investment. 8. Understand the
difference between “being known” and “being famous”. Our soul wants one
and our heart wants another. Try to figure out which wants which. 9.
Know that there is a fine line and a huge difference between confidence
and arrogance. 10. Believe that phone calls and conversations are more
powerful than Tweets and Posts. 11. Believe that someone else can learn
from your biggest mistake. 12. Know that you can’t effectively care for
someone you think less of. If you serve someone you think less of,
you’re only serving yourself. Work hard to dignify those you serve. 13.
Commit to seeing the potential in someone before seeing the problems.
14. Believe in the power of presence. Show up more. May 2014 bring you
more opportunities to do good. May we all look to live beyond ourselves
and have the courage to change the world within us before the world