You're not good enough.
What guy would want you?
You're too fat.
You're going to be alone and that's just the way it is.
The affirmations listed above had been permeating my very being for a loooooooong time (like, since as far back as I can remember). I honestly think turning 30 allowed me to challenge those negative affirmations that had been haunting me; particularly because I had not fulfilled two of my large life goals (graduating from college and being married) before my age ticked out of my 20's.
Twice in a month, my son told me he wanted me to date. How does a girl go into the dating world when negative mantras are repeated regularly? Answer: She doesn't.
Something gave, more specifically the second time he mentioned his desire for mama to start dating. Sure, I've given the wonderful world of relationships an elementary effort in the years since becoming a mom....but never really had given it a good college try.
This time has been different. This time, these are the mantra's I've been constantly repeating (while looking in the mirror):
Damn I look good.
Hello there! You get'm girl.
YOU CAN DO THIS.
You deserve to have fun.
You deserve to be treated like a princess.